The magic bond parent-child: why it΄s the most precious thing in the world!
1 June 2021 Estimated time: ~2 min.
The parent-child relationship is said to be the strongest human bond. An indestructible emotional chain, an invisible energetic thread that no one and nothing can break.
"We carry our children in our arms for a short time, but we carry them in our hearts forever," says an old saying. The connection between mother and child is unique, being developed from the moment of conception, materialized at birth and existing throughout life.
Cells that contain the baby’s DNA eventually become part of the mother’s body, and some experts believe that fetal cells may even have the ability to generate protection against cancer. Moreover, fetal cells support stem cells, can generate new neurons in the mother’s brain and can even help heal the heart.
Other studies have shown the existence of fetal cells in the mother’s bones, liver and lungs, suggesting that these cells have created a real home in the mother’s body.
"We are dependent on the mother in whose body we grow up, on her love and care when we leave her womb. The newborn child must orient himself with all his senses and powers towards the mother. She is at the center of her life that is beginning. The mother is the source of her child’s physical, emotional and spiritual development. From the moment of procreation, the mother and the child are a unit intertwined in the soul, emotion and thought", writes Franz Ruppert, specialist in trauma psychotherapy.
The child’s relationship with his parents influences his entire adult life
Empathy, affection, desire to share and share, inhibition to hurt, to do harm, the ability to love and be loved and countless other characteristics of a person (including their ability of being happy) are associated with basic skills, attachment, formed in early childhood and are directly influenced by the relationship that the child had with the parents.
A healthy relationship between the child and the parents, especially the mother or the primary caregiver is associated with an increased likelihood of creating new healthy interpersonal relationships, while a deficient, sentimentally poor attachment is associated with emotional deficiencies.
The most important emotional needs of the child
For the harmonious development of the child’s personality, in addition to meeting basic needs, the child has emotional needs that are required to be met: respect (which includes freedom of expression and decision-making), sincerity, even well-intentioned lies of parents make him feel confused), acceptance (needs to be accepted and valued by his parents, regardless of the success or failure of his actions), love (both in happy and sad moments), patience (a child can not be asked for something "here and now", because he needs time and explanations), time (the child needs the company and attention of his parents).